4 Tips to not ‘F*** Up’ your holidays – A quick guide to Co-Parenting
When you’ve come to terms that you need a divorce from your spouse the holidays can, unfortunately, bring up pain, not joy. Anger, resentment, and sadness can be ever-present when spending time around a soon-to-be ex-spouse. However, these are the exact opposite emotions that your kids expect when thinking of the holidays, of the days off from school, and of spending time as a family; regardless of whether the family unit might be evolving due to a divorce.
We’ve worked with divorce and family law clients in Atlanta and throughout Georgia for over 15 years. We know what works in divorce and how you can help yourself and reduce your stress, headaches, and family drama when you’re making the important decision to seek a better future. Check out these 4 tips to avoid the drama, be a better co-parent during the holidays, and not ‘Eff Up’ your time.
1. Your kids know when you’re fighting
They know when you’re not talking to each other. They see the dirty glances you’re passing to each other on the way out. You’re not fooling them. You might be fooling yourself. Focus on getting through it calmly, amicably as best you can. But don’t fool yourself into thinking “Oh, they have no idea what’s going on.” The fact is that they do. Protecting your kids from these types of fights can help them pass a better time.
2. Find the time to create experiences with your kids
Find the time for just you and the children. Let your spouse create experiences for just them and the children separately also. Remember tip number one, that the kids know when you’re fighting and you’re not getting along? Trying to bring everyone together just makes it more complicated than it needs to be. Times are changing. Embrace it.
3. Don’t try to one-up the other parent
You’re about to be divorced, and do you really want to start this precedent of trying to outdo whatever the other parent is doing? That’s not what your children are going to be focused on. They’re going to be focused on which parent loves them, spend time with them and nurtures them, and that’s what you should be focused on as well.
4. Save your money for the divorce
Don’t blow big sums of money trying to throw this huge Christmas that the kids really aren’t going to be focused on. You know that come the end of the holiday season, you have a plan for yourself moving forward, and that plan is to get divorced. Save up some money, so you can do that by hiring the best divorce representation for you. At the Edwards Law Group, we’re here and we’re happy to help. Pick up the phone. Give us a call.